The Ugly Truth About Comparing

I’ve done a few writing challenges off and on. This time around I had to write on the topic of something that is ugly.

But, I don’t like ugly. I’m a girl…I like things to be pretty and if they glitter that’s an added bonus. Except for men, men shouldn’t glitter. I’m probably going to get hate mail from all the Twilight fans out there.

So, what does it mean to write something ugly? Shud I spell horibley and; knot use gramer correctly!.? I wouldn’t consider that ugly, just annoying. I have been pondering off and on today thinking about what I should write. I finally decided to look through some stuff I wrote earlier this year. You know the stuff that no one reads except yourself.

Well, I stumbled upon something I wrote and thought, “Ugh, I can’t believe I deal with that still! That’s ugly.” BINGO! I hit the jackpot!

Things are going to get real, raw and ugly. We are going to be talking about, COMPARING.

That’s one area that I struggled with when I was younger and sometimes now that I am older. As an adult, it’s lot easier for me to deal with those thoughts, but I’m human and sometimes I think poopy thoughts. This is when I am so thankful for God’s unwavering love.

Now, everyone will deal with different areas of comparison. It can be anything from beauty, achievements/success, happiness, wealth, relationships and the list goes on and on. I do want to share 2 areas that I sometimes get hung up on.

Those two would be my career and relationships. Funny enough those are the two areas that I have the hardest time finding a breakthrough in. That’s why I tend to compare myself to other, trying to figure out why I can’t achieve what I desire.

I haven’t been able to nail a ministry job recently. All the while people all around me are getting hired and moving forward in their careers. I sit here trying to be faithful to my studies, and my relationship to God. And as for my non-existent love life, all my friends are dating or now married. If not careful I can start to compare myself to others. Not to mention have a pity party.

Comparing is the manifestation of either pride or insecurities. When we are dealing insecurities is that it’s usually rooted in fear and jealousy. Now we are starting to hit on ugly!

The crazy thing is both of those leave us incapable of being used by the Lord. We become too consumed with ourselves that we can’t be thankful for what the Lord has given us. We can become puffed up thinking we are better than others.

On the flip side of it all. We can beat ourselves down because we are not like that person or those people that we desire to be like. I believe this is an area which most people struggle with when it comes to comparing.

No matter how you compare it’s all rooted in lies. All we can see is our lack and how others are rolling around in our desires. It doesn’t matter what other people have and what I think I lack. What matters is my faithfulness to what God has given me. I don’t want to end up missing out on what God has for me because I was too consumed on what others have.


When you boil it down comparing ourselves with others is us not being fully thankful for what God has given us. We have misplaced our trust. God is our provider and if we lack something He will fill the gap.

Does He always fill it with the things we think we need? No, sometimes He gives us peace or something peace totally different, but it works perfectly. And sometimes it’s in His perfect timing that He will bring what our heart desires. The key is to trust Him.

Everyone could be getting hired or married, and if my trust is on the things of this world; I will feel rejected. That will cause me to compare myself with everyone I come into contact with.

The thing is that if my trust is in the Lord and His will; I will be able to walk through that season with grace. Not just that, but I will be able to celebrate in others blessings. All the while knowing that God will see me through.

If comparing has been something you have struggled with. I would encourage you to take some time with the Lord. Repent if you have disvalued yourself or have thought too highly of yourself. Also, repent if you have judged anyone in your comparing.

Express to Him the things you desire and how things make you feel. The Lord wants you to share your heart with Him. Look at how the Psalms are written! Then ask for His help to view yourself and others through His eyes.

“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that… Don’t compare yourself with others.” – Galatians 6:4

Drop me a comment below and share with me if comparing is an area of your life you want to overcome!