The Ugly Truth About Comparing

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I’ve done a few writing challenges off and on. This time around I had to write on the topic of something that is ugly.

But, I don’t like ugly. I’m a girl…I like things to be pretty and if they glitter that’s an added bonus. Except for men, men shouldn’t glitter. I’m probably going to get hate mail from all the Twilight fans out there.

So, what does it mean to write something ugly? Shud I spell horibley and; knot use gramer correctly!.? I wouldn’t consider that ugly, just annoying. I have been pondering off and on today thinking about what I should write. I finally decided to look through some stuff I wrote earlier this year. You know the stuff that no one reads except yourself.

the ugly truth about comparing

Well, I stumbled upon something I wrote and thought, “Ugh, I can’t believe I deal with that still! That’s ugly.” BINGO! I hit the jackpot!

Things are going to get real, raw and ugly. We are going to be talking about, COMPARING.

That’s one area that I struggled with when I was younger and sometimes now that I am older. As an adult, it’s lot easier for me to deal with those thoughts, but I’m human and sometimes I think poopy thoughts. This is when I am so thankful for God’s unwavering love.

Now, everyone will deal with different areas of comparison. It can be anything from beauty, achievements/success, happiness, wealth, relationships and the list goes on and on. I do want to share 2 areas that I sometimes get hung up on.

Those two would be my career and relationships. Funny enough those are the two areas that I have the hardest time finding a breakthrough in. That’s why I tend to compare myself to other, trying to figure out why I can’t achieve what I desire.

I haven’t been able to nail a ministry job recently. All the while people all around me are getting hired and moving forward in their careers. I sit here trying to be faithful to my studies, and my relationship to God. And as for my non-existent love life, all my friends are dating or now married. If not careful I can start to compare myself to others. Not to mention have a pity party.

Comparing is the manifestation of either pride or insecurities. When we are dealing insecurities is that it’s usually rooted in fear and jealousy. Now we are starting to hit on ugly!

The crazy thing is both of those leave us incapable of being used by the Lord. We become too consumed with ourselves that we can’t be thankful for what the Lord has given us. We can become puffed up thinking we are better than others.

On the flip side of it all. We can beat ourselves down because we are not like that person or those people that we desire to be like. I believe this is an area which most people struggle with when it comes to comparing.

No matter how you compare it’s all rooted in lies. All we can see is our lack and how others are rolling around in our desires. It doesn’t matter what other people have and what I think I lack. What matters is my faithfulness to what God has given me. I don’t want to end up missing out on what God has for me because I was too consumed on what others have.

Comparing Quote
When you boil it down comparing ourselves with others is us not being fully thankful for what God has given us. We have misplaced our trust. God is our provider and if we lack something He will fill the gap.

Does He always fill it with the things we think we need? No, sometimes He gives us peace or something peace totally different, but it works perfectly. And sometimes it’s in His perfect timing that He will bring what our heart desires. The key is to trust Him.

Everyone could be getting hired or married, and if my trust is on the things of this world; I will feel rejected. That will cause me to compare myself with everyone I come into contact with.

The thing is that if my trust is in the Lord and His will; I will be able to walk through that season with grace. Not just that, but I will be able to celebrate in others blessings. All the while knowing that God will see me through.

If comparing has been something you have struggled with. I would encourage you to take some time with the Lord. Repent if you have disvalued yourself or have thought too highly of yourself. Also, repent if you have judged anyone in your comparing.

Express to Him the things you desire and how things make you feel. The Lord wants you to share your heart with Him. Look at how the Psalms are written! Then ask for His help to view yourself and others through His eyes.

“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that… Don’t compare yourself with others.” – Galatians 6:4

Drop me a comment below and share with me if comparing is an area of your life you want to overcome!

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16 Comments

  1. I’m reading “Uninvited” by Lysa TerKeurst and it talks a lot about comparing oneself to others. It’s definitely hitting me where it hurts and opening up a lot of old wounds but it’s also helping me to heal and move forward!
    Awesome post!
    -Sierra
    http://www.girltransformed.blog

    1. Gotta love it when God hits something head on in your life. lol I feel like that happens to me all the time. He’s doing a great work in you and as those wounds heal you will bring breakthrough to others!!

      I will have to check out Uninvited! I’ve heard great things about Lysa TerKeurst. 🙂 Thank for sharing

    1. I think the majority of the population deal with it. It’s so easy to compare… That’s why we are so in need of getting our eyes of ourselves and onto Christ!

  2. Awesome post! You couldn’t have said it any better. It’s usually those times that you don’t know what to write about and come out with an awesome, thoughtful post like this one! I’ve struggled to compare myself in the past and till this day I still do in some areas. Like you, I was struggling what is my career path lol I think I changed my major 3-4 times in a year lol I kinda just stopped guessing and left it in God’s hands. Sometimes, I believe that the reason I can’t find my true career path is because there are certain areas in my life that need to be worked that I’m not aware of that God wants to fix before He gives me my dream job. Makes sense?

    Beautiful post! Definitely going to share it <3

    1. Thank you, Martika! That’s so true haha! I think that’s when we rely on God more and He helps it flow. The career one is tough because it deals with what feel called to do. Sometimes you just need to wear blinders to and ear plugs and just take little steps forward. And I do think you are right…a lot of times He is preparing us for the call or dream job. And when I get frustrated I think about that and it reminds how GOOD He is. That’s His protection so I don’t mess things up! 🙂

  3. Honestly I think comparing you with other person just makes you feel inferior and self-conscious. We all know everyone is different so I feel like instead of comparing, trying to reach towards your goal is more important!

  4. God is so good that He does not compare us with others. He loves us all individually, yet we are the ones who have difficulty comparing ourselves with others. I think we women struggle with this the most- we wonder if our homes are as clean as our friends, if the food we took to the event will taste as good, etc…
    This is an excellent teaching. One day, when the right job opens for you, you will have all these posts to share with others in ministry. Perhaps God is using this “downtime”, as you search for a job, to compile many writings for your future career. Wishing you the best as you job search.

  5. Such a wonderful reading! Your writing style is just awesome. I used to compare my self with others when i was younger but as i get older i can only see there is no need for this. Everyone is so unique, everyone can only be its self.

  6. This post rings so true. I was just talking to one of my friends about this after stressing about some stuff happening in my life. It’s so easy for us to get caught up in the appearances of others and then put ourselves down as a result. Every day I try and find joy in my uniqueness and hope everyone is able to do the same!

  7. I recently graduated from college. But some friends already have jobs. Really good jobs! And I’m still waiting for that moment to come. Comparing myself to other makes this situation harder… Great post!

  8. It’s hard not to compare, isn’t it? Everybody wants what someone else has. But happiness probably comes from being content with what’s already around you.

  9. Comparison is something I struggle with, especially when I see people having babies and buying houses. But I’m learning anew to be content with how things are now, and to trust in God.

    And that incorrectly spelled sentence was so very ugly – but made me smile!